Tuesday, May 5, 2009

Men Only: How To Flirt On

Be different when it comes to On line dating. Many of the same techniques work for Internet flirting that work for bricks and mortar flirting because all dating begins with successful flirting. Here's how to pull it off.

Flirting is an art form that requires showing confidence without being too macho but, if you go too far, she may back away. If you don't go far enough, she may not respect you as a man. So how do you achieve that point half way between wanted and rejected and do it online without using eye contact or body language?

All you have is a computer, internet connection, and maybe belong to a social networking site, right? So, how can this be done?

Try these 6 magical tips and you will have success.

1. Have fun! Be light-hearted, funny and entertaining. Make her eager to talk to you again. Flirting must always be playful, not life and death surgery so use your sense of humor. No off-color jokes or innuendo's please!

2. Project self confidence! Successful flirts have a positive outlook on life and feel good about themselves. You need to project your "feel good about myself" factor. An optimistic and self assured man attracts females like pollen attracts bees.

3. Compliment her and do it often and do it sincerely. Nothing opens doors like recognizing her positive traits. But, don't overdo this. Find something about her that she will recognize is a real compliment because she knows it fits her. Do this and she will want to spend more time with you, and, if she pays you a compliment accept it with a sincere "thank you". Do not try to be Mr. Humility! That's too wimpy!

4. The "Listen Factor"! Pay close attention to what she says and ask interesting questions. She will reveal much of herself in what she says so get her to open up and talk about herself by asking lots of questions. Make her feel like she is interesting and that you are interested in her. The "Listen Factor" works wonders!

5. Don't be a crude dude! Flirting does not include being explicit or being a jerk if the lady isn't responding to your suggestive overtures. If she isn't interested in such a relationship, take the hint. Change the subject or move on to the next prospect if you must but, If you get a lot of rejections, you should probably reconsider your dating goals. The salesperson's rule is : Quit when you get seven No's. They are not going to buy! What are you selling and how are you selling it? Got it?

6. Always dash off a short email or text message after each exchange with your prospective date. This ranks right up there with sending a "Thank You" note for a gift and it is vital to successful flirting. It shows you are a sensitive guy. You are a sensitive guy, right?

Finally, and this is critical to your success, don't be a phony when using these tips to your advantage. Most women have intution that will zero in on you and blow you out of the water! Be honestly sincere when you use these tips. You'll have the edge in your on line dating and maybe you'll find your real soul mate. If not, you will surely have lots of fun trying!

 

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